The Unspoken Secret To Male Sexual Dysfunction: It May Be In Your Mind
Sexual functioning in men. It’s been a hot topic for centuries but, until recently, was rarely seriously addressed. Sexual dysfunction is when something is interfering with your sexual performance or preventing you from enjoying sex. This may result from some physical, chemical, or psychological disorder or even just a decision you’re making.
Sexual dysfunction is a common problem.
Sexual dysfunction is a common problem. According to the American Sexual Health Association, more than 50 million Americans over 25 have experienced erectile dysfunction (ED). The same organization estimates that one in four men will experience ED at some point.
There are several different types of sexual dysfunction, but most doctors agree that it’s not just physical factors that can cause problems. Mental health issues such as depression and anxiety can also contribute to problems with arousal and sexual performance.
The reason that sexual dysfunction is so common and can be a serious problem for men and their partners because it’s not just about physical arousal. Sexual dysfunction is more than just a physical problem — it’s also psychological.
Sexual dysfunction isn’t just about you and your partner experiencing less pleasure or reaching orgasm; it’s also about how you think and feel about sex. If you believe that your body isn’t good enough to satisfy your partner (or yourself), you won’t be able to relax enough to let go of inhibitions and enjoy the moment.
If you think your body isn’t up to par because of past failures or other factors, you may have difficulty overcoming those negative thoughts to enjoy sex. Even if you’re comfortable with your body in general, if you’ve been rejected by someone close to you or experienced some trauma in the past, these experiences can cause deep-seated feelings of shame that interfere with sexual performance and other aspects of intimacy like closeness and trust.
Sexual arousal has to do with the brain more than blood flow.
Have you ever gone to bed with a partner and felt your desire was lacking? It’s not necessarily the case that you’re not getting enough sex. The problem may be more psychological than physical.
Male sexual arousal has to do with the brain more than blood flow. Men need to think about sex, fantasize about it, and visualize themselves having sex to get turned on and have an erection. But when they don’t feel like thinking about sex or fantasizing, they can’t get hard — no matter how much blood is flowing through their penises.
The problem is that many men who struggle with moderate to severe erectile dysfunction don’t realize how important mental preparation is for them. This is particularly true for men who are stressed out at work, worried about their relationship, or had a tough day at school (or both). When these things happen, it’s easy for your brain to short-circuit and send signals down your spine instead of up into your head — which will send signals down into your penis but not up from there into your body.”
The frequency of erection and sexual satisfaction are independent.
Sexual dysfunction is a common problem. A survey of more than 3,000 men found that nearly 60 percent reported problems with erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. And 22 percent said they had trouble with their partner’s sexual satisfaction.
The problem isn’t just physical; it’s also mental.
Whether you think you’re in a funk or not, your brain may play a role in your lack of sexual desire. Here are some of the common culprits:
Low libido: When your sex drive is low, it can be hard to get aroused or orgasm with your partner. Low libido can also lead to infidelity in relationships that should last forever.
Lack of confidence: Feeling like you don’t measure up can make you feel inadequate as a lover and a person — which can affect how much pleasure you take from sex. This is especially true if you’re worried about pleasing your partner sexually because they’re not very responsive or interested in intimacy or romance outside the bedroom.
Stress: Stress can make it difficult for anyone to get turned on — especially if they’re under lots of pressure at work or elsewhere in their lives
Takeaway: If you’re having trouble achieving or maintaining an erection, it may be that your brain is telling you that you don’t want sex as much as your partner thinks you do.